What would be good to know, like you said, is the temp at which the BCM / ECM commands the fans to turn on in series (slow speed) and when in parallel (high speed). You already know that parallel works, but there is a 5th contact when in series. If it's not able to make contact (burnt, bent, etc.) then they won't turn on for slow speed at all. Find another 5-pin relay elsewhere in the fuse box and swap it in for a test. Make sure it's not from a more critical circuit, though!
All of the 4-pin relays can be rotated 180° and work just fine, but the 5-pin cannot.
Yeah I haven't been able to locate that information specifically, one forum post I saw claimed it was 223°F low speed/230° high speed; which I can't say for sure is incorrect.. but I'd imagine it isn't very accurate being that my gauge is just below red when at 230°.. & when my car was functioning correctly, it certainly never rose to that high of a temperature on the gauge before cooling off - is why I find that answer to be incorrect.
When at mid-line on the temperature gauge, my temperature is about 200° even, every so often it would rise just above that point before immediately coming back down (prior to these cooling issues) which leads me to believe from experience driving the car + what makes sense that 210° is probably the setpoint for high-speed fan signal.
At any rate, from a broad picture perspective: the vehicle is pinging damn near the red zone on the temperature gauge when just idling, and will (has) overheat(ed) only a couple of minutes into driving it. At no point do the fans come on when approaching overheat or even the times after it had, and I shut the engine off as soon as I could pull over safely, the fans still weren't on.
It took a while to realize this due to other symptomatic issues that have since been addressed, but now it seems the only issue (and possibly the original cause for the other issues that have been addressed) is the cooling fans not coming on at any point other than being commanded on by the A/C control circuit.
I will certainly be looking more into the 5 pin see/par relay for functionality- but again it did appear to have been functioning when I pulled it in& out while being commanded on by the A/C being turned on; as I pulled it in/out the relay would engage/disengage and the fans would also turn on/off as I did so.
I thank you again tremendously for your time and responsiveness on this!! I'll update with any further progress or information as I am able to (if I am able to..😜 that has been an ongoing issue for a couple of months now..)